Ugh! Day 4 of pneumonia and strep is killing me! And not in the terrible-to-be-sick kind of way, but in the bored-out-of-my-mind way. I have so many meds I need one of those pill reminder boxes. The upside is I haven’t been hungry so it’s possibly the only weight loss plan that might actually work for me. Thus this experiment!
Recently I had my students watch a couple of videos that are very thought-provoking. One is “Are you living an InstaLIE?”
The other video is by Simon Sinek and he discusses Millennials in the workplace. This is a fascinating video. Please take the time to watch it to the end because what he says should terrify you.
As I ponder my own cell phone use, I wonder, “Am I addicted?” So, in pursuit of answers, I downloaded an app to track my cell phone usage. Ick! Trust me when I say that you will be stunned by your usage. I kept track for several days and it depressed me terribly. And if I’m addicted, what does that say for my kids?
All of these things did make me more aware of the down moments when I would just reach for my phone because I was bored. I’m trying to be more mindful of that and force myself to get up and do something…anything but be a passive participant in my own life.
For the record (and in the spirit of transparency), I deleted that app about a week later…nobody needs that kind of negativity in their life. I’m searching for JOY and evidently it isn’t at my fingertips.
It’s easy to tell others what they “need to do” isn’t it? I think as a mom and teacher, that (whatever “that” is) is in my gene code somehow.
But if I’m honest, I have a lot of things I “need to do” about my own life. And what gives me the right to judge other people’s choices when I can’t even get my own life under control. And I’m not sure I want it “under control” anyway…how boring would that be!
And the reality is…no one has all their crap together…and if they say they do, they’re lying. We all put on a public face that makes it appear like we do but if we are LIVING…we are evolving…we are changing. And change is messy. If you do have it under control, you are stagnant…and that’s a place I never want to be.
I think self-reflection is good. The problem is it’s hard to be truthful about our flaws. And real change requires that real hard look. So in the spirit of self-reflection, my new goal is to take “what you need to do” out of my vocabulary. It will be hard. I’m bossy by nature. But that doesn’t make it right.
So feel free to correct me when I try to tell you what you need to do with your life when I don’t even know what I need to do with mine.
In this age of Fakebook and InstaLIE, everyone’s life looks better than yours. It isn’t. It’s distorted reality and it’s impossible to live up to a lie. And why would you want to? So examine your own life and vow to judge less, love more, and just be a little more kind. ‘Tis the season and all…it’s a great time to start while others won’t be suspicious!